Reflecting on if you’re going to stare post

Yesterday, after writing my previous post about “if you’re going to stare, at least smile,” I received a phone call from a friend.  Two weeks ago after attending an all school mass at our children’s school, we jumped in my car and ran to McDonald’s to get a diet coke.  We started to talk about Mother Teresa and she told me her favorite quote which was her screen saver on her phone.

People are often unreasonable, irrational and self-centered.  Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.  Be kind anyways.

If you are successful you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you.  Be honest and sincere anyway.

What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight.  Create anyway.

If you find sincerity and happiness, some may be jealous.  Be happy anyway.

The good you do today will often be forgotten.  Do good anyway.

Give the best you have and it will never be enough.  Give your best anyway.

In the final analysis, it is between you and God.  It was never between you and them anyway.

Well, my friend reminded me on the phone yesterday that my job was to love PJ and smile because it’s between me and God.  The mean woman who was starting at him, whatever issue she has to cause her to think and feel and act in the way she does, well, that is also between her and God.  It was not between me and her.  Although my heart can break for my child at the cruelty of others, all I can really do is protect him and love him.  And I guess forgive those who don’t realize how close to God they are when they are around a child like Pj.


1 Comment (+add yours?)

  1. Mark J. Hahn
    Jun 17, 2013 @ 07:03:03

    Good morning Lisa,

    Hope all is well.

    Maybe it is a function of age, leaning towards/on God and learning to open my heart, but I notice that people tend to speak and act from their own doubts, pains and insecurities. The hurtful things they say and do are not really aimed at others, but rather are aimed at themselves, like thinking out loud. Maybe they stare because they see the love between you and your son – and they have none. Maybe the appearance of anger or meanness comes into play because they fear they can never have the bond with someone like you have with your child. The more I look at these situations in this fashion, the less I feel the target and the more I want to try to help them. That put’s it squarely between me and God.



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